Ruby Rebel: Who Can Find a Virtuous Woman


“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her price is far above rubies.” Proverbs 31:10

Oh to be a virtuous wife! I know what she looks like, how she speaks, how she loves her husband, and yet, reaching through the ages, I can still feel the kindred curse of Eve’s desire to control…to know better than God, and lead her husband.

I desperately cry out with Paul, “O wretched man that I am! Who shall deliver me from this body of death?” Romans 7:24

And then another voice within me whispers, “Faithful is He who called you, who also will do it.”


We will press toward the mark of the high calling!

We will fail; we will do what we know not to do; but we will keep looking to the Author and Finisher of our faith.

Proverbs 31:10 reveals an important truth–a virtuous woman is rare. That means you won’t find virtuous women on every corner; they have to be searched out (which is also important to remember as our children approach marrying age one day.)

We cannot look to the “average” woman for our example. We cannot look to the culture. She is not there. We must look to Scripture, and then pray and strive to become one of those rare jewels.

Another thing about rare jewels…jewels are rare because there are not in abundance, but also because they have to be cut out of the rock around them. They have to be chipped out, polished, chiseled on and perfected. You don’t just stumble upon a ruby that is perfectly formed and sparkling. It must endure some work.

And so must we!

Which means we must be willing to endure the process of refinement, recognizing it as God’s tenderness towards us, and His loving vision for our lives. Whatever that looks like for you, obedience and submission to HIS design will bring forth the jewel He wants to make out of you.

Foundational to understanding the virtuous woman, is the overarching truth that God’s ways are not our ways, and that His design is the only one that will bring our happiness and contentment in marriage.

We can kick against it all day long, but if you want a fulfilling marriage, you just have to give in to God’s ways, and stop listening to the world’s (after all, who wants a track record like theirs?).

Ponder today whether you are willing to be a rare jewel.  Rare is different. But it is valuable. In a sense, we are to be “Ruby Rebels” (leave it to me to work in the word “rebellious” while talking about being a woman 😉

Being submissive to God is to be rebellious to the world, by default. I like it–Ruby Rebels!

Since this post first published, many women have requested a way to spread the word about “Ruby Rebels”.  So here’s the official button if you want to add it to your site!

To spread the word about being a Ruby Rebel with an official RR button, copy and paste the following code into your blog or site. Imagine the impact we can have for Christ!

Grab the code and share the encouragement!

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