Well-Behaved Women

On Saturday afternoon I was alone in the car with my honey for the first time in a week. We had just left the church, where our oldest daughter had just married, and we were on our way to the reception. (I will post about the ceremony later.) We were stuck in bumper-to-bumper traffic. I was glowing as I laid my head back to rest as Don had asked me to. I had a hard time closing my eyes, because I couldn’t stop looking at him. I so admired the man sitting behind the steering wheel and just wanted to continue gazing at him as he drove. Being tired, it didn’t take long before I drifted off to sleep. As brief as it was, it was refreshing.

We came to a quick halt, and I opened my eyes. Don gently put his hand on me to apologize, because a car had cut in on us and he had to hit the brakes. I looked at the car in front of us and saw a bumper sticker on it. It said, “Well-behaved women rarely make history.”

I couldn’t stop staring at it, because I wondered how many women believe that. I, for one, could not and would not receive that. According to the standards of society, I’m considered a well-behaved woman. True as that may be, what’s not true is that there’s a chance I may not make history.What does it take to make history?

I have several answers to that question. When I woke up this morning and ministered to my family by taking care of my home, I was making history. Even as I sit here right now writing this blog, I’m making history. I started on my history-making journey when I decided to do things contrary to what was popular. I looked back in history, trying to figure out where our society went wrong. In the late 60’s – early 70’s, there was a shift in our land. Women were told by other women they didn’t have to behave anymore. Thus began the feminist movement that was supposed to bring freedom to women. As a child, I remember looking around and wondering what happened. Some things in history don’t need to be repeated.

In my quest, I found this:

Thus says the Lord: “Stand in the ways and see, and ask for the old paths, where the good way is, and walk in it; then you will find rest for your souls…” Jeremiah 6:16.

I’ve decided that I’m going to continue to behave while making history. Who knows, maybe I’ll be in the history books one day and you may not realize it. I’ll be the mother of the world-changers that you’re reading about.

8 thoughts on “Well-Behaved Women

  1. But are these misbehaving women making history we really want to repeat?! I doubt it. Because of Margaret Sanger alone we have history’s largest holocaust targeting one group….the unborn.

    What about Suzanne Wesley…a well-behaved woman. The public school history books probably never even mention her name, but look at the history and legacy she left behind! Now there’s a history worth repeating!


  2. How often have I seen that saying about “well behaved women” and felt irritated… I love how you took those words, embraced them and turned them right around. Your last line just brought tears to my eyes♥


  3. Awww you are such a sweetheart admiring your husband like you did and even more to share that private information with us 🙂 I love it!!!!

    I love the video that you posted 🙂


  4. “Well behaved women rarely make history?!” Are you kidding? What else is this country founded on if not well-behaved women who raised well-behaved men of integrity? And who are the most historically known women if not women of the bible who were well-behaved and walked the straight and narrow road (Ester, Ruth Sara…)? Thanks for sharing this post. I too was equally encouraged to hear your private respectful thoughts about your husband. We all need to think those more and share them. (I love this site!) If you like “Little House on the Prairie” you’ll really like the Ralph Moody series. It is the same time frame as “Little House” and it is a biography of a young man and his family. It’s our family favorite!


  5. The phrase “well-behaved women rarely make history” is often used as a feminist mantra, but it was not intended that way. It means that while many women in the past just lived quiet, ordinary lives, they’re still interesting and worth studying. (I had a professor who is close friends with Laurel Thatcher Ulrich, the woman the quote originated from.)


    1. Thank you for sharing that, wordywife! I have often wondered if this phrase was originally meant to be positive–a statement of fact rather than a condemnation. Lovely!


  6. Thank you for sharing this post, and congratulations on your daughters’ marriage. The first time I saw this bumper sticker, I immediately thought, “What about the Virgin Mary?” Yes, Wordywife, such women are not only worth studying, but also worth emulating. Blessings…


  7. Mrs. King,

    What a great post! Indeed we are raising children who will make history!

    May I tell you how beautiful I thought your profile was especially “I ‘m happily married to a wonderful man of integrity, Don.” That is beautiful. I too, am blessed to be married to such a man. I love the way you worded this!


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