After reading and discussion in real life as well as online, I was inspired to write some more on the subject of working from home and developing our talents from home. As someone who has worked from home in the past, for periods of more or less intensity, I have learned that, while working from home is certainly more flexible and family-friendly than rushing to an outside job for an entire day, it’s still work. It can still be time-consuming, and gobble up much of your energy and resources.If it’s a question of a mother absolutely needing a source of income, and she finds it through a home business, that’s wonderful. But if starting a home business is only optional, I believe it should be very carefully considered whether it really is necessary, and how much it will detract from home life, before plunging into it.
I talk specifically about home businesses and working from home here, but to be truthful, the same consideration can be applied to anything that might take up much of the wife and mother’s time and energy – such as volunteering, driving the children to and from different activities on a daily basis, even visiting with friends. It’s all a question of the time spent on that activity, and whether this amount of time, at this particular season of that family’s life, can be spared without putting at risk vitally important things such as peace of mind, relationships, and simply taking the time to enjoy life to the fullest.
As someone who has been passionate about writing for most of my conscious life, I confess that this is my weak spot. Writing can become almost all-consuming for me when I’m in a swirl of inspiration. I have a few short works I’ve completed not that long ago and some more on the back burner. Some things are waiting to be translated. I would love to publish someday, perhaps, but currently I’m working in turtle mode, snatching short periods of time here and there – barely counts as keeping up. And I’ve come to terms with that – the life of a mother is simply very busy, full of things that come around but once and deserve to be savored to the fullest. God willing, time will come when I’m more at leisure, and for now, I’ll just enjoy my full life in a young and growing family.
Also, since the beginning of this pregnancy, I have been feeling more and more strongly an effect I have already experienced while I was carrying my daughter – being ensconced, drawn within, focused on my nest and on those closest to me. A desire to read, see and listen to lovely things – only lovely, peaceful, calming things. Last time I was about to have a baby, we had a war going on in Israel, and I could hardly bring myself to be updated on the news. Sometimes I’m honestly clueless about some things that are going on here.
Same goes for shallow relationships, social gatherings that are mainly gossip, books and websites that don’t leave me encouraged and uplifted – everything that is simply a time-gobbler, or even a good and worthwhile thing but simply too much to keep up with for now, I try to cut out. My time and resources aren’t infinite – and there are many days when I feel just how limited they are. Our families and homes are our God-given responsibilities. If there is something I want to do but for the time being it isn’t realistically possible, so be it. It can wait. Almost any “extra” can wait, but the same cannot be said about precious things such as the babyhood of my children, nurturing important relationships, and the daily work of tending to my home in a way that will influence the minds of my family in a positive way.
To sum it up, I’m in a season of life when I’m cutting out many non-essentials, so that I can better enjoy the truly important things that are left. I don’t see it as sacrifice but, rather, as prioritizing. I’m casting away things that would become an undue burden for me right now. I want to stay with what encourages and inspires me on my path as a wife and mother, with what helps me to fulfill this uniquely important role.