Exposing The Lies

I want to get straight to the heart of the issue and expose some of the many and greatest lies of feminism. As you read through this list, honestly ask yourself which of these lies you may have believed in the past or present in some form or another.

Shall we begin?

1. I have my rights.

2. I can have it all.

3. I should not have to live with unfulfilled longings.

4. A career outside the home is more valuable and fulfilling than being a wife and mother.

5. It’s all about me.

6. If my husband is passive I need to lead.

7. If I submit, I’ll be miserable.

8. I have to have ________ to make me happy.

9. Children are a hindrance and a burden.

10. Women are smarter than men.

These are only 10 lies that I have chosen that I think are the most common in our culture, and whether they fall under the categories of worldly, fleshly or feminist, these seem to be the ones women seem to fall prey to most frequently. These lies are most dangerous as many of them seek to weaken the family unit in one way or another (a form of Marxism). It takes the focus of of living a life for God and doing all we can for His glory and instead creates false idols that we worship secretly. These lies keep us from living out full lives as God intended and how He designed us to be. Lies hinders us from receiving God’s best. Lies keeps us miserable, unsatisfied and always longing for more—while God’s ways are focused on joy of the Lord, satisfaction in the Cross and contentment for His grace is sufficient.

I know that growing up I was exposed to a barrage feminism in schools, books, television, magazines, movies, music, peers, billboards, role models, etc. It was rampant and everywhere in culture (much like brainwashing) and still is today. Like Satan whispering to Eve in the garden, these lies whisper to us throughout the course of the day when we are taking care of our homes, raising the children, supporting our husbands, etc. Satan is trying his best to get our attention for he knows if he can thwart our efforts and attentions we will abandon our roles. We will abandon our homes. We will abandon our position as helpmeet and mothers. He knows we can’t train the next generation of godly seed if we are focused on ourselves and wallowing in a pool of self-pity.

Wake up, ladies! The trumpet is sounding–get back to your posts! The enemy lurks and wants your children, your marriage, your home! As Christian women we must know how vital our roles are in society, we must understand that we (second only to God) are the cornerstones in helping to build strong, Christian societies in our nation today….but if we abandon our roles we contribute to it’s demise and destruction. We abandon it by forsaking our roles and chasing after the lies.

Feminism has stolen so much from Christianity and America. If we are faithful and diligent we can reclaim it. But it begins with you. Stop listening to the fatal lies and turn back to the pure, holy Word of God for your source of life and direction.

(This post was originally written on October of 2007 at A Wise Woman Builds Her Home originally under the title Feminism Exposed)

11 thoughts on “Exposing The Lies

  1. Based on what, exactly? what sources would you cite for this? This is pretty vague.

    It seems to me that self centered people–regardless of ideology–think this way. I know plenty of conservative christian women who have never considered themselves feminists think this way. I also know many “feminist” women who prioritize their marriages and families and see that strength comes from self sacrifice and putting the good of others before themselves.


  2. Thank you for your thoughts on the lies that the world has spread to women. Being a women is a wonderful blessing and one role that no man can accomplish. It is our unique gift and one that we should embrace with love and joy. I am so thankful for all the women who want to build a happy home and a safe haven for their family. It is hard in this day and time, but so rewarding. I enjoy your website.


  3. Dear Madgebaby,

    I agree with you regarding your statement of women who are conservative Christians who think this way–I for one, am one of them. If we are honest, we are all just sinners saved by grace contaminated by our sin and from the world.

    I believe struggling with lies is a battle that every person–man and woman have to face. Notice that I stated that regardless of what lie it was–feminist, worldly or of the flesh because because lies are lies and we need to be wise and discerning in the culture that we live in today. That is the heart of this post–to call women back to truth and back to their homes and it is only by God’s grace and with His wisdom that we can do so.


  4. I agree with all you said, but laying this on feminism is a bit spurious. Selfishness is a core human sin, and it isn’t the fault of some huge “feminist agenda”, marxism, or anything else political. These (and the Tea Party and every other sort of human political endeavor) manifest human foibles and characteristics, but they aren’t the essential cause of them.


  5. This post is empowering and encouraging to a new wife and mother like myself. For many years I fell into the trap of the “it’s all about me” lies. I’ve returned home and now I feel at ease and blessed to know that I can be here full time for my family and not have to worry about rushing to work, dealing with a bunch of drama at work and bringing it home with me etc. I thank God for women like you who are willing and openly sharing the goodness of God’s word and love and bold enough to expose the lies of Satan. This post gave me the push that I needed to hold my head up and give God all the glory and praise for blessing me to be a Keeper at Home.
    Thank you again.


  6. I have come to the conclusion that I can either work for the “house” ie my family, or work for the world. The world pays me money, but gives me and my family no “reward”. I have tried in the past to work for both, part time here and part time there, but my house needs a full time keeper, and I don’t mean just the dishes, lol. Sometimes the idea of “having it all” should also explain the need to care for “it all”. I would rather care for my family, they care back. Love is worth millions, possessions are just stuff.


  7. I’m a homeschooling mom of seven, and I agree with most of your posts. However, I have to say that I know many feminists who absolutely adore children, whether their own or their friends. They are just as good with children as I am–even with all my experience! I have one feminist friend who is happy to play with my kids for hours on end!

    So I’m not sure I agree with you. The feminists I know say that they are more about the choice to have kids, and the choice to choose the number of kids they have. They reached this position (though it’s different from mine) out of a LOVE for kids.

    I don’t think feminists view children as a burden at all. It’s fine to be against feminism, but it is good to be honest about what they believe and don’t believe.

    In Christ,



  8. June, I appreciated your article and embrace what I think you meant by it. But I have a friend, a very nice lady, who looked at what you wrote and took it a different way. For #1, for example, she thinks you are saying that women don’t matter, don’t need to be treated with dignity, and should be treated as slaves in the home, even if it brings them physical harm. Is this what you meant? Thank you.


  9. I’m just wondering if perhaps you based your article on the book by Nancy Leigh DeMoss – LIES WOMEN BELIEVE AND THE TRUTH THAT SETS THEM FREE. I guess I’m wondering because many of the lies you’ve listed are the exact chapter titles from her book. The truths in your article are certainly things we need to be reminded of very often. I picked up Nancy’s book many years ago while going through a deep struggle, and listening to the overwhelming lies of the enemy. I would recommend the book highly, and place it in my top 10 all-time favorites. I’m glad God’s truth will always set us free. Please keep exposing the lies of feminism and worldliness, and especially keep teaching truth from God’s Word.


  10. Dear Janine,

    These are lies that not only feminists believe–but Christians as well. One of the main reasons why this article was written. As a first generation Christian I struggled with this thinking early on and it is not necessarily just a feminist issue as much as it is just sin of the flesh.

    Dear Susan,

    Woman DO matter and should be treated rightly–I don’t see how this article advocates physical harm in any way. We must be careful to read the facts and not read further into it.

    Hope that helps and have a blessed day!


  11. chengdu- The “choice” to have children on demand, to spend a good portion of your reproductive years actively preventing them, and (usually in feminism) advocating for the right to kill them if they come about at an inconvenient time doesn’t equal a love for children, no matter how good they are with yours, no matter how much they claim to “love” children- at least not in a godly way, which is what this article is about. We must remember what the world considers love and what God considers love is two different things. And although there are individual feminists who break from their “group” ideology (i.e. pro-life feminism), feminism as a whole does in fact view children as a burden. You use physical barriers, pills or shots to prevent them (sounds like a disease, doesn’t it?), and then if it happens anyways at the wrong time you should have the right to have a surgical procedure to kill them. I speak as one who was an active feminist.

    I would highly recommend the comments on this article to check out
    the article on LAF “You don’t know feminism”.


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