Combating Feminism

After my tubal ligation, and experiencing profound sadness for having a procedure that took my fertility away, I began studying the history behind the birth control movement. I found that the seeds of birth control were rooted in the soil of feminism. I also found that birth control was a stepping stone to abortion. Birth control had to come before abortion. Because we had to first warm up to the idea of contraception before such a radical idea as killing our own children could ever be made legal. We had to feel that it was OK to control whether or not a life would be allowed to grow inside one’s body before we could come to the decision that it was OK to stop a baby from growing by having an abortion procedure. Now back to the origin in all of this in feminism. Before birth control there had to be feminism or the idea of wanting to be in control, being free to do what we want. (True freedom comes from obedience to God. We can never have true freedom apart from Christ no matter how hard we try). The more I read and studied, the more I started to realize the magnitude of the damage that has come from the feminists philosophy. I knew that I wanted to have no part of it.I am a former feminist. Feminism is not freeing, it is just the opposite. Feminism is a lie that started way back in the Garden of Eden when Satan tried to convince Eve that if she only took matters in her own hands, she could become like God. Isn’t that what feminism is today? We want to be in control. We believe that being in control will bring us happiness. But true peace and joy comes from following God’s ways. I know from experience.

One way that I feel led to combat feminism is by dressing in a feminine manner. A few years back I was watching “Little House on the Prairie,” and the particular episode was about a woman who wore pants. I couldn’t believe how out of place she looked. I realized at that moment that wearing pants was a step toward feminism. I had never even thought about it before. We are so immersed in our culture that we don’t even realize how things have come to be until we take the time to study the history behind them. Now, with that said, I have to say that wearing a skirt does not make a person holy. Some of the most godly women of our day wear pants. But here are some reasons why I like to wear modest skirts and dresses (I do still wear pants on occasion).

1.To look different from men. We live in an androgynous society. I’m finding that it is becoming increasingly more common for me to be “unsure” if a person is a guy or girl. Even among children….my boys ask me on a regular basis if another child is a boy or a girl because it really is hard to tell.

2.To look nice and attractive and not frumpy. Women of centuries past would be taken aback by the way women of our day dress and behave. I always try to look attractive before leaving the house, not because I want to please man, but because I am representing Jesus Christ.

3. So that my boys will be attracted to femininity. We live in an age where the family is under attack. We must parent on purpose. Little boys tend to marry women like their mommas.Of course I want my boys to marry kind, loving, Christian women. (Women who will be especially kind to their momma.:)) But I also want them to marry women who are modest, feminine, and strong in their Christian beliefs. I pray that by modeling these behaviors to my boys that it will lead them to be attracted to modest and feminine dress.

I have found that dressing femininely can also have an effect on the daily interactions with others. I see a change in how I am treated when I wear feminine dress. People smile at me and open doors for me. You don’t believe me? Why not give it a try!

7 thoughts on “Combating Feminism

  1. I find that when I wear skirts, I feel different. I feel more lovely and graceful and gentle, so I act more feminine. That’s why I hardly ever leave the house wearing pants.

    I also like skirts because I can never seem to find a pair of pants that fits. In the winter, people ask me if I’m cold since I’m wearing a skirt, but I can be warmer with a skirt (and plenty of layers underneath) than they could ever be in a pair of pants (even with a layer underneath).


  2. I appreciate this humble post. I am a woman who wears pants but I love how dresses make me feel. I am raising 3 beautiful girls and whenever I use to put them in shorts or pants they would put up a struggle because they love dresses so much. It starts when we are little girls. We love dresses and of course it has to have the trill factor. My girls feel pretty and girlie in their dresses, why would I want to take that away from them? I now just buy them dresses. I too am wearing more and more dresses. Hubby likes too :).
    Thanks again for the post.


  3. Wonderful post- Thank you!

    Wearing skirts and dresses has also helped me cultivate my feminity. It has only been since July since I have gone “totally” to skirts and dresses. I did so after reading “Dressing with Dignity” by Colleen Hammond. This book is filled with information and history on woman’s clothing. I had to reread the book twice-it is brim full of information and references.


  4. This is a very sweet post! I’m not at this point yet… I still wear pants most of the time. I have been wearing dresses more and more though… I like to feel feminine. My big issue is I really like fashion (I know, I know, materialism) and it’s hard for me to find styles I really like… and not too short either. That shouldn’t be what stops me, but… shrug… for now. I’d love to learn how to make my own dresses and skirts though! I love tights too… but they snag so easily. I still have so far to go and wearing only dresses will probably be later on for me in life. But I think it will be a nice transition!


  5. As interesting as i find this post I find that my experience has been some what different even from those of you who have commented. For starters even as a child I did not wear dresses or skirts I found them impractical. Know that I am in my 20s I do like dresses but i find that instead of being treated more feminine when i wear them i just get stared at even more by guys and tend to feel a bit immodest even in longer skirts


  6. I compleatly agree with your connection of birth control with feminism. I’m convinced that the virtues of femininity (modesty, distinct dress, purity before and chastity within marriage) strem from the basic needs of women (as the fertile sex) to secure a stable monogamous relationship before ‘risking’ pregnancy and thereafter preserve that relationship for our children. So to me contraception undermines these virtues and ultimately femininity itself.

    So although I accept that (in marriage) the husband (in consultation with his wife) may decide to use contraception himself or a couple may practise NFP I don’t think women should be anything other than her natural self.

    As a frequent – but not exclusive skirt wearer, I went skirts & dresses only when I got married 7 years ago. It does change both the way you feel and the way others see you – for the better all round. It’s perfectly practical once you become accustomed and I’m convinced it’s both more modest and more maternal for children.


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