After my tubal ligation, and experiencing profound sadness for having a procedure that took my fertility away, I began studying the history behind the birth control movement. I found that the seeds of birth control were rooted in the soil of feminism. I also found that birth control was a stepping stone to abortion. Birth control had to come before abortion. Because we had to first warm up to the idea of contraception before such a radical idea as killing our own children could ever be made legal. We had to feel that it was OK to control whether or not a life would be allowed to grow inside one’s body before we could come to the decision that it was OK to stop a baby from growing by having an abortion procedure. Now back to the origin in all of this in feminism. Before birth control there had to be feminism or the idea of wanting to be in control, being free to do what we want. (True freedom comes from obedience to God. We can never have true freedom apart from Christ no matter how hard we try). The more I read and studied, the more I started to realize the magnitude of the damage that has come from the feminists philosophy. I knew that I wanted to have no part of it.I am a former feminist. Feminism is not freeing, it is just the opposite. Feminism is a lie that started way back in the Garden of Eden when Satan tried to convince Eve that if she only took matters in her own hands, she could become like God. Isn’t that what feminism is today? We want to be in control. We believe that being in control will bring us happiness. But true peace and joy comes from following God’s ways. I know from experience.
One way that I feel led to combat feminism is by dressing in a feminine manner. A few years back I was watching “Little House on the Prairie,” and the particular episode was about a woman who wore pants. I couldn’t believe how out of place she looked. I realized at that moment that wearing pants was a step toward feminism. I had never even thought about it before. We are so immersed in our culture that we don’t even realize how things have come to be until we take the time to study the history behind them. Now, with that said, I have to say that wearing a skirt does not make a person holy. Some of the most godly women of our day wear pants. But here are some reasons why I like to wear modest skirts and dresses (I do still wear pants on occasion).
1.To look different from men. We live in an androgynous society. I’m finding that it is becoming increasingly more common for me to be “unsure” if a person is a guy or girl. Even among children….my boys ask me on a regular basis if another child is a boy or a girl because it really is hard to tell.
2.To look nice and attractive and not frumpy. Women of centuries past would be taken aback by the way women of our day dress and behave. I always try to look attractive before leaving the house, not because I want to please man, but because I am representing Jesus Christ.
3. So that my boys will be attracted to femininity. We live in an age where the family is under attack. We must parent on purpose. Little boys tend to marry women like their mommas.Of course I want my boys to marry kind, loving, Christian women. (Women who will be especially kind to their momma.:)) But I also want them to marry women who are modest, feminine, and strong in their Christian beliefs. I pray that by modeling these behaviors to my boys that it will lead them to be attracted to modest and feminine dress.
I have found that dressing femininely can also have an effect on the daily interactions with others. I see a change in how I am treated when I wear feminine dress. People smile at me and open doors for me. You don’t believe me? Why not give it a try!