Falling in love with love

There’s a thought-provoking piece over on Mercatornet about people choosing to divorce because they “fell out of love”:

The news that “falling out of love” is now the number one reason for divorce in the UK stirred a memory in me of the late Sir Harry Secombe, singing in the voice of his Goon Show alter-ego, accompanied by Peter Sellars on the timpani:

Falling in love with love is falling for make-believe
Falling in love with love is playing the fool…
I fell in love with love, with love everlasting
But love fell out with me!

The idea that 27 per cent of marriages in the UK end because people simply “grow apart” or “fall out of love” makes me wonder what is really going on in these people’s lives. There’s no doubting that marriages – like any relationship – may turn sour; indeed, we should always bet on the likelihood that difficulties will emerge over time. We, more than most generations, have been given ample reason and opportunity to doubt the naïve ideal of marriage as one unbroken experience of “falling in love”. Yet, apparently, people still believe that the beginning and end of marriage should mirror the falling into and out of love.

Read the entire commentary HERE. Solid marriages have to be built on more than feelings, which can change with time. We all hope our love will deepen and become more satisfying as the years go by (and that’s a worthy goal), but we also have to realistically plan to secure our marriages by investing in our spouses, making sacrifices, and sharing a long-term vision for where we go in life as a family.

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