Another fantastic piece from Boundless.org:
In the world’s version of attraction, I’m a consumer, not a servant. I respond to attributes of yours that I like because of their potential to please me. Again, this is not malicious or evil — it’s just not how we’re primarily called to treat one another in Scripture. It’s not the Bible’s idea of love.
As for marriage, look back to the passage from Ephesians 5. Fundamentally, marriage is a beautiful (if distant) analogy of the way that Christ has perfectly loved and sacrificed for the church, and the way the church, His bride, responds to her Lord.
Marriage is incredibly fun; it’s also incredibly hard. For most people it is the greatest act of ministry and service to another person that they will ever undertake. Husbands are literally called to “give themselves up for” their wives. Wives are called to submit to, respect and serve their husbands “as to the Lord.” Though husbands and wives receive countless blessings from a biblical marriage, the very idea of biblical marriage describes an act — many acts — of love, service, sacrifice and ministry toward a sinful human being. According to Scripture, marriage is anything but a selfish endeavor. It is a ministry.
Read the full article at THIS LINK. I really enjoyed this one, and it brought up some key points that have bothered me recently as I’ve heard various viewpoints coming from courtship proponents. I have met many wonderful young men and women who desire to be married to godly spouses but can’t seem to find “the one.” Yet when I hear the laundry list of what they “require” from a spouse, I am no longer surprised that they are unmarried. Some of the things are so unreachable that a young woman would have to wait to marry a mature man of 50 or 60 to meet what she considers her “match!”
We need to remember that we are all sinners when we marry and that we are hardly perfect matches ourselves. When I look back at the woman my husband met and wooed 17 years ago, I’m still shocked that he saw anything in me. I was fresh out of “Christian feminism” and still very stubborn about some of my pet beliefs. My husband tells me he felt the same way about himself, wondering how on earth I’d agree to marry a 20-year-old “buck private” without a big bankroll or a high-paying job. 😉 Yet God has richly blessed our marriage, and we are in awe of His grace and mercy. Neither of us was a “perfect match,” but God is the perfect matchmaker, helping two sinners to grow together in love and commitment in spite of their failings. I pray young people (and their parents) can keep this in mind as they prayerfully seek marriage.