In her book “Lean In,” Sheryl Sandberg blames women for subconsciously self-selecting out of career tracks that lead to the corner office and the big bucks. By being fearful, unassertive, and hedging their bets in favor of flexibility for kids many of them don’t yet have, Sandberg says that women themselves are largely responsible for why men still dominate at the highest levels of corporate and political leadership.
Her assumption is that a fabulous, prestigious, well-paid career is the pinnacle of all human achievement and that gender equity at the highest levels of industry is always preferable. But my question is: for who? For children? For families? For women who want to be present for their children or enjoy the fleeting early years of their children’s lives? As Caitlin Flanagan rightly points out in her column,“What about the children,” leaning in to a career, Sandberg-style, inevitably means leaning away from family, friends and a life that’s centered at home.
I admire Mrs. Sandberg’s career, but what she fails to appreciate is the wisdom of women who do not define success (or happiness) solely by the male standards of achievement that spurred her to the top of the heap.
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