Don’t Be A Bathsheba


Shabby Apple: Modest, Stylish, Inspiring.
Shabby Apple: Modest, Stylish, Inspiring.

From Single, Young, Christian, Mom

Don’t be the Bathsheba meaning don’t be a sexual temptation or a bad example of beauty for others.

I’ve been thinking and praying a lot lately about how we as women deal with beauty.  Beauty is a battle in and of itself. Every woman longs deeply to have a beauty all her own and for it to be seen, admired, and appreciated.  Unfortunately, the term beautiful has been greatly distorted over the years.

Now adays beautiful is confused and associated with other words with a little more spice to them, words like hot and sexy.  But that’s a problem!! Hot and sexy inspire lust which often times leads to sin (see James 1:15 below).

In the words of Ethan: “There are two types of girls for most guys I’ve talked to: girls that are hot that you just want to have sex with, and girls that are cute, that you actually want to bewith.”  Whenever Ethan told me “I always thought you were cute,” I was never particularly thrilled with this compliment, knowing that there are girls out there like Kim Kardashian and Olivia Wilde littering the cover of every magazine and advertisement.  One day, I finally asked: “But do you think I’m hot?  How could I possibly compete with all the other women out there that are considered the hottest women?”  He told me I didn’t get it, and then he explained.  It took me abount a half hour of talking to understand that cute > hot.  By far.  Cute is beauty, outer and inner combined, where inner beauty is the leading role and only enhances the outer beauty you already possess and that they were already attracted to.

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Recommended Resources
Purity: A Godly Woman’s Adornment (On-the-Go Devotionals)
Woman of the House: A Mother’s Role in Building a Christian Culture
The Hidden Art of Homemaking
It’s (Not That) Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way

3 thoughts on “Don’t Be A Bathsheba

  1. Does anyone else think the dress in the top picture is NOT modest? My husband and I wouldn’t let any of our daughters out of the house dressed in such a fitted, almost skin-tight dress. Just because it doesn’t have a plunging neckline doesn’t make it “modest”. The moment she bends over or sits down…yikes. I can’t help but think it would be quite a temptation and stumbling block for men.
    I hope I’m being thick and it’s supposed to be satirical.


  2. I was thinking the same thing, MommyC. Perhaps if the dress were slightly longer it would look more modest. Or, it could be the way the model is standing. She seems more provocative than modest. Makes me think the picture is trying to show “Bathsheba” and not a modest woman.
    As a side note: Was Bathsheba really the one at fault in that situation? The Bible doesn’t seem to make a big deal out of her bathing, but points out that David was at the palace during a time when “kings go forth to battle”. It seems that all that happens after David calls Bathsheba is considered his sin, not hers.
    By the way, I did really like the article. She made a lot of good points. =)


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