My Wife Has Tattoos: Marriage, New Birth, and the Gospel

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Today is the day of my wedding.  And I am not marrying the girl of my dreams.

If you would have told me when I was a teenager that my wife would have seven tattoo’s, a history in drugs, alcohol, and attending heavy metal concerts I would have laughed at you, given you one of my courtship books, and told you to take a hike.  My plans were much different, much more nuanced with careful planning, much more clean-cut, and much more, well, about me.

You see, it wasn’t my dream to marry a girl that was complicated.  I never dreamed that I would sit on a couch with my future wife in pre-marital counseling listening to her cry and tell stories of drunken nights, listing the drugs she used, confessing mistakes made in past relationships.

This isn’t my dream – it’s better.

Many people wouldn’t put Taylor and I together.  In high school, we probably would not have been friends.  She probably would have thought that I was a nice, boring, judgmental Christian kid; I probably would have thought that she was a nice, lost, party-scene girl that guys like me are supposed to stay away from.  People like us, with our backgrounds and history are not supposed to meet, fall in love, and covenant their lives to each other.

But everything changes when people meet Jesus.  Jesus takes people like rebellious teenage partiers, and goody-two-shoe homeschoolers and puts them together in marriage to put something on display much bigger than their own hand-crafted, perfectly planned love-story.

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Recommended Resources
Gospel Centered Marriages for a Glorious Church
Building a Godly Home, Volume 1: A Holy Vision for Family Life
Building a God-Centered Family, A Father’s Manual
Marrying Well: Practical Wisdom on Courtship for Parents & Children

2 thoughts on “My Wife Has Tattoos: Marriage, New Birth, and the Gospel

  1. An excellent read! If I may make an observation:

    The courtship teachings books /must/ be recast to allow for situations like these – too many of them are cast in terms of the ‘purity’ of one virgin marrying another, and cases like these, if exceptional, must be allowed for. As Oscar Wilde put it, “No sinner without a future – and no saint without a past”.


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