Modesty is Unremarkable

From My daughters told me recently that modest clothing is unremarkable in itself, but remarkable in its potential effects. Ironically, the benefit of modest clothing is its transparency, so to speak. Modest clothing attracts attention neither to itself nor to the superficial qualities of the person wearing it. In fact, by not being a distraction or an end in itself, modest clothing allows the … Continue reading Modesty is Unremarkable

Nudity and the Christian Worldview

From an excellent piece by Robin Phillips: Given the premium the Bible places on modesty, one would expect Christians to reject public displays of nudity on television. Sadly, however, millions of Christians have come to treat sex scenes as a normal and accepted part of their viewing habits, especially if it is only one scene in an otherwise good movie. They will often justify watching … Continue reading Nudity and the Christian Worldview

The Death of Pretty

This post is intended as a lament of sorts, a lament for something in the culture that is dying and may never been seen again. Pretty, pretty is dying. People will define pretty differently.  For the purposes of this piece, I define pretty as a mutually enriching balanced combination of beauty and projected innocence. Once upon a time, women wanted to project an innocence.  I … Continue reading The Death of Pretty

It’s (Not That) Complicated: It’s Here!

We’re excited to announce that our new book, It’s (Not That) Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way, is now available! For more information and to order a copy, visit Visit for updates, excerpts, and special features! “How do young men and young women interact with one another when marriage is not in view? Can young men … Continue reading It’s (Not That) Complicated: It’s Here!

Modesty Helps Foster Friendship in Women

The article Jennie posted a few days ago, “Modesty Helps Women Be Friends”, makes some very good points, and inspired the following post:

WARNING: Before I begin, I’d like to make it clear that when I use the word “modesty”, I am neither referring to “pants vs. dresses” nor some sort of Christianized burka. The issue isn’t personal opinions regarding styles of dress. The issue is when, if, and how to confront those who are displaying sexually explicit areas of their bodies (either by uncovering them completely or clearly showcasing them). Please do not misunderstand this post as an invitation to become a “man-made rule maker,” policing other Christians based simply on their style of dress.

The premise of this article is love and it is directed only to Christians. It is not in reference to visitors to your church, people you don’t know, or unbelievers.

So, here is a question inspired by the topic in the article above:

When a young Christian in your life dresses immodestly, do you love her enough to say something to her or do you keep silent, fearing her reaction?

Here is what happened to me years ago… Continue reading “Modesty Helps Foster Friendship in Women”

Modesty Helps Women Be Friends

This piece from the National Catholic Register has to be one of the best articles I’ve ever read on reasons for modesty, highlighting one I don’t think many of us consider…but one that is nevertheless very important: our relationships with other women. Though each woman may have different ideas about exactly what it means to be modest, there is a general agreement that putting forth … Continue reading Modesty Helps Women Be Friends

Should 40-something moms dress like their daughters?

From Mariette Ulrich at Mercatornet: When it comes to fashion advice, it seems the young are leading the way. The study of more than 300 mothers and daughters found that adolescent girls have a powerful influence on the make-up, clothes and hairstyles chosen by their mothers…. The desire to look one’s best isn’t new or strange; it’s a normal human aspiration. The alarming part is … Continue reading Should 40-something moms dress like their daughters?

Why Do We Let Girls Dress Like That?

The Wall Street Journal published a thought-provoking article this weekend, wondering out loud as to why today’s mothers-of-teenagers allow their daughters to dress and act like the Paris Hiltons of the world. With surprising honesty and clarity, the author admits that feminism might be to blame: “We are the first moms in history to have grown up with widely available birth control, the first who … Continue reading Why Do We Let Girls Dress Like That?

Combating Feminism

After my tubal ligation, and experiencing profound sadness for having a procedure that took my fertility away, I began studying the history behind the birth control movement. I found that the seeds of birth control were rooted in the soil of feminism. I also found that birth control was a stepping stone to abortion. Birth control had to come before abortion. Because we had to first warm up to the idea of contraception before such a radical idea as killing our own children could ever be made legal. We had to feel that it was OK to control whether or not a life would be allowed to grow inside one’s body before we could come to the decision that it was OK to stop a baby from growing by having an abortion procedure. Now back to the origin in all of this in feminism. Before birth control there had to be feminism or the idea of wanting to be in control, being free to do what we want. (True freedom comes from obedience to God. We can never have true freedom apart from Christ no matter how hard we try). The more I read and studied, the more I started to realize the magnitude of the damage that has come from the feminists philosophy. I knew that I wanted to have no part of it. Continue reading “Combating Feminism”

Train up a child in the way of a…prostitute?

I am heartbroken for the little girls out there who are not only unprotected, but exploited – even by their own parents.

I was absolutely apalled today when I read the following article, which included a video of 7-year-old girls at a dance competition! They were dancing to bump and grind music, in red and black stripper bikinis, gyrating for the crowd:

“The signs are all there: The hip-grinding come-ons. Legs kicked up to the ear. Skin-baring lingerie. This particular video remake of Beyoncé’s hit “Single Ladies” follows a rubric of raunchy moves straight out of the pole-dance manual. But the performers, according to published reports, are 7-year-olds.” Continue reading “Train up a child in the way of a…prostitute?”