The End of a Courtship: One Mother’s Perspective

Step back in time for a moment to your college biology class.  You were a good student. You read the text; you attended every class; you took notes, despite the prof’s hypnotic drone. You were going to rock this class. Then you went to the lab. And try as you might, you could find nothing under the microscope that even remotely resembled the beautiful drawing … Continue reading The End of a Courtship: One Mother’s Perspective

Reexamining the Patriarchal Vision

By Israel Wayne 

I was recently approached by a mother at a homeschooling convention who heard me speak to the teens on the topic of “Waiting for True Love.” She brought her 11-yr-old daughter up to me and said, “Mr. Wayne, can you please tell my daughter why, when she turns 18, that she needs not to date guys and needs to allow her father and I to pick the person she marries?” I studied her face for a moment to see if she was serious. She was. I told her, “If you and your husband have cultivated an open relationship of trust and communication with your daughter, when she is 18, she will be knocking your door down (figuratively) to get your advice, wisdom, guidance, counsel and blessing regarding who she marries. If you have proven that you are trustworthy, have a good track record of making good and godly decisions, and she is fully convinced that you have her best interests at heart, you won’t be able to keep her away from seeking you out for wisdom, blessing and counsel. On the other hand, if all of that is not in place, then anything that you try to impose from the outside will only back-fire on you and cause even more bitterness, resentment and rejection.” Continue reading “Reexamining the Patriarchal Vision”

Embracing Courtship With An Open Heart And Mind

I was raised as a child to wait and discover the spouse God had in store for me. I embraced the term courtship, and dreamed of the day that God would bring the right man in my life for me. But I ended up having a little bit different story than what the books portray as being the “right way”. Read the rest here Recommended Resources It’s … Continue reading Embracing Courtship With An Open Heart And Mind

Duggar Daughter’s Courtship Has Old-Fashioned Roots With a Tech-Savvy Twist

Jessa and Ben have an unusual relationship by modern standards. They met at church and started to get to know one another, which is a normal “how “Courtship is not just about having fun,” added Michelle, 47. “You are really considering if this person could be your life partner — you pray about it and see what happens. … All of our family is involved … Continue reading Duggar Daughter’s Courtship Has Old-Fashioned Roots With a Tech-Savvy Twist

“Brother, You’re Like a Six”

Another fantastic piece from Boundless.org: In the world’s version of attraction, I’m a consumer, not a servant. I respond to attributes of yours that I like because of their potential to please me. Again, this is not malicious or evil — it’s just not how we’re primarily called to treat one another in Scripture. It’s not the Bible’s idea of love. As for marriage, look back … Continue reading “Brother, You’re Like a Six”