G. K. Chesterton: It’s Not Gay, and It’s Not Marriage

One of the pressing issues of Chesterton’s time was “birth control.” He not only objected to the idea, he objected to the very term because it meant the opposite of what it said. It meant no birth and no control. I can only imagine he would have the same objections about “gay marriage.” The idea is wrong, but so is the name. It is not gay … Continue reading G. K. Chesterton: It’s Not Gay, and It’s Not Marriage

Four Lessons from Solomon’s Song

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In our culture, February means roses, chocolates, and all the traditional symbols of romantic love. After nearly five years of marriage to my wonderful husband, I have enjoyed receiving love letters, holding hands over candlelit dinners, and taking nighttime walks under the stars with my sweetheart. However, I have also learned that there is more to making and maintaining a healthy, thriving relationship than these kinds of romantic gestures. The world (and its businesses) may tout their own ideology regarding love and marriage, but I know of no better place to find true principles and sound wisdom than in the word of God.

While every book of the Bible has taught me something about strengthening my marriage and loving my husband, the Song of Solomon is one book in particular that has offered me a wealth of insight on the love between a man and his wife. My husband and I have read this book together and often talked over the main lessons we have gleaned from this beautiful, inspired poem—insights that have also been confirmed by our own experiences. Since February is traditionally a month in which love and romance are emphasized, I thought I’d share four lessons from Solomon’s song that I’ve found particularly helpful in my own life.  Continue reading “Four Lessons from Solomon’s Song”

The New Singleness

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[Editor’s note: Maggie Gallagher’s The New Singleness is from 2011 but still pertinent. Her article is referring to Katie Bolick’s Atlantic Cover story, Nov. 2011 – All the Single Ladies. (Which actually has some good historic references. She plainly admits she isn’t interested in keeping with them.) Maggie does well outlining what the millennial generation is facing; something we must understand. The new norms, temptations, propaganda, the emptiness desperately need to be addressed. We see in our crowd young men and women marrying and starting families right away. We see happy christian marriages, faithful spouses, capable and educated young people who lead rather than follow. We have a story to tell. There is hope even for this new singleness.] Sex has been divorced from meaning. Men are not being raised to be good family men, and women are not being raised to appreciate good family men. And men are failing to become the kind of men women want. Porn is available for all as a substitute for life. So Kate, facing a future without children or marriage, wants to celebrate singleness and to kill her youthful idealization. Continue reading “The New Singleness”

Courtship Resources for the 21st Century

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intcIt’s (Not That) Complicated: How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way

Ever been confused about friendships with boys? How to handle crushes? How friendly is too friendly? How close is too close? What to do when a guy is being way too friendly? What guys think about all this? What it means to be a “sister, in all purity”? Guy-girl relationships have always been complicated, but perhaps never more so than today. It’s (Not That) Complicated is a humorous, hopeful, and deeply thought-provoking new look at guy-girl relationships in our times. Dealing practically with such complications as online interaction, Hollywood expectations, undefined relationships, and unrequited love, the Botkin sisters offer enduring biblical principles that can make it all much simpler. “How do young men and young women interact with one another when marriage is not in view? Can young men and young women be ‘friends’? And how does a young woman guard her heart, preserve her purity, and walk in integrity without treating young men with disdain? In It’s (Not That) Complicated, Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin address these and other questions with wisdom, grace, transparency, and biblical acuity.” – Dr. Voddie Baucham Jr. Continue reading “Courtship Resources for the 21st Century”

How Courting a Man Ruined Me

When Mack first told me he wanted to be more than friends, my initial reaction was “Not gonna happen.” That’s mostly because I’d never dated. Anyone. Like ever. And I’ve never wanted to. I was protecting my heart. I’d watched my friends date, watched their hearts get broken and continue the cycle. For me, I didn’t want to date someone unless I knew I could possibly marry … Continue reading How Courting a Man Ruined Me

The Affair

By Chad Bird, author at the Flying Scroll

theaffairThere are times when a man and a woman, even though they’re good people, even though they’re both married and committed to their respective spouses, even though these spouses love them, find themselves falling in love with another person whom they think is their soulmate. It isn’t planned. They’re not looking to cheat. But out of the blue they meet someone else and begin thinking, “I might be happier with this other person.” Then they have a choice to make.

That, at least, is the premise of the new Showtime drama, “The Affair,” which began airing earlier this month (October 12). One of the co-creators of the show, Sarah Treem, told Hitfix, “The idea [for the show] was that you’re in a marriage, you love your wife, she’s a good woman, you’re a good man. You have kids and then you meet somebody by chance who [sic] you think is your soul mate. What do you do?” Continue reading “The Affair”

Marriage linked to Income Increase

The News Story – Marriage rates keep falling, as money concerns rise A Pew Research Center Report released Wednesday reveals that a record 20% of adults over the age of 25 have never married, and that number is expected to rise to 25% by 2030. The New York Times reports that at least a part of this marriage decline is due to “the country’s deepening socioeconomic divide.”  Women, it seems, … Continue reading Marriage linked to Income Increase

Courtship: Should There Be Only One Suitor?

Imagine this: Marc has a female friend he’s known for years. Recently, he’s begun to realize what a good wife she would make and how much he enjoys her friendship. He talks to his parents who agree this looks like a wise course, then he calls her dad and makes an appointment to talk to him. He tells her father how much he appreciates his friend and … Continue reading Courtship: Should There Be Only One Suitor?

The slow, tentative return of women’s lost sense of sexual honour

Something in our nature craves the constraints that produce the rewards an honour code confers. A recent editorial in Canada’s National Post informs us that many indicators, such as a dramatically diminished interest in topless bathing in France, the bellwether of female sexual liberation, point to a return of relative conservatism in women’s attitudes to sex. In North America, teens of all races and classes are starting sexual … Continue reading The slow, tentative return of women’s lost sense of sexual honour