The Boundaries of a Wise Heart


“You have to demand respect!”

These words, uttered passionately into my cellphone earlier this week, have driven me from blog-hiding to write about a topic that is near and dear to my heart these days (quite largely because of that passionate conversation): boundaries and respect in male/female relationships.

Respect may seem an odd topic for me to cover on a web journal originally called Ladies Against Feminism, because it is usually assumed that women who do not embrace feminism to not demand respect from the men in their lives. And, while it’s true that my advice to my friend (who I shall call “Annie,” because that’s the name of one of my favorite songs, and Annie is one of my favorite people) was not to call up the young man who had wronged her and read him his rights… I do believe that women who embrace femininity can demand respect without emasculating the men in their lives; in fact, on the contrary, I believe that the way the we can command respect will affirm their masculinity.

Rejecting the fruits of the sexual revolution makes me an old-fashioned girl… but old-fashioned doesn’t equal doormat. Continue reading “The Boundaries of a Wise Heart”

God’s Providence While in the Valley

Why Lord, Why? I could not believe this was happening. Haven’t I been obedient to you? Why is this happening? The pain I felt was heart-wrenching. I was scared and doubtful wondering if we had made the right decision to have the reversal and trust God with our fertility. I told my husband that we had made a mistake.

We had made the decision to have a tubal ligation because of the risks associated with multiple c-sections. All four of our children were born via c-section. I was not prepared for the regret and sadness that I would feel immediately after having a procedure that took my fertility away. I would cry and cry over the thought of never being able to become pregnant again. After much prayer and time spent studying God’s Word, we made the decision to have a reversal. On March 2nd, 2010, (2 1/2 years after my tubal ligation) my reversal was performed. Nothing compared to the peace and joy that I felt knowing that I was whole again. Continue reading “God’s Providence While in the Valley”

“You Don’t Know Feminism”

As a woman, I do not understand how you can form a website based on such a disgraceful idea. Everyone is obviously entitled to their own opinion, but your opinion lacks intelligence and is solely based on ignorance. Feminism is not about shunning the idea of being a housewife, etc. In fact it has nothing to do with that. It is simply a choice. For whoever wrote the article I was reading, how can you say that feminists basically look down on women who are housewives? I have never in my research, schooling, etc. heard such a ridiculous comment and criticism of feminism. I suggest that your website educate itself more on what feminism is all about before you contain ignorant articles on your website.

The quote above comes from one of many “Scorching Rhetoric” notes we’ve received here at LAF. One complaint we often hear is that we know nothing about feminism and that what we claim feminism stands for (or has stood for in the past) is not true. As will be obvious to anyone who takes the time to carefully read this site (particularly our Theme Articles), we do not seek to lump all those who call themselves feminists into the same category. Even feminists disagree about what feminism means (see “What Is Feminism?”). You can no more stereotype feminists than you can stereotype all women. Just as there is no consensus within the Church about what constitutes a homemaker (sadly enough), there is no consensus within the feminist movement about what constitutes a true feminist. This can make it extremely difficult to nail down just what feminism is about and where the movement desires to take women and society in the future. But we can learn about the various objectives it has promoted and claimed as its own down through the decades.

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Excellent Quotes

Home is the true wife’s kingdom. There, first of all places, she must be strong and beautiful.”
~ J.R. Miller, Secrets of Happy Home Life

“To be Queen Elizabeth within a definite area, deciding sales, banquets, labours and holidays; to be Whiteley within a certain area, providing toys, boots, sheets, cakes and books; to be Aristotle within a certain area, teaching morals, manners, theology, and hygiene; I can understand how this might exhaust the mind, but I cannot imagine how it could narrow it. How can it be a large career to tell other people’s children about the Rule of Three, and a small career to tell one’s own children about the universe? How can it be broad to be the same thing to everyone, and narrow to be everything to someone? No; a woman’s function is laborious, but because it is gigantic, not because it is minute. I will pity Mrs. Jones for the hugeness of her task; I will never pity her for its smallness.”
~ G.K. Chesterton, What’s Wrong with the World.

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