3 Thoughts About Submission in Marriage

I was working in my office with the TV on this past Friday when I heard an anchor passionately raising her voice. It turned out the all-women panel was discussing actress Candace Cameron Bure’s recent comments on HuffPost Live about her decision to live out biblical submission in her 17-year marriage to NHL hockey player Valeri Bure. In her interview, Bure defined biblical submission as … Continue reading 3 Thoughts About Submission in Marriage

Can Laid Back Men Lead?

I got married as I was completing my doctorate in clinical psychology. I was one driven, serious woman on a mission to save the world. My husband, Mike, on the other hand, was far more laid-back. I was drawn to his fun-loving, “surfer-dude” nature—he helped me relax and enjoy life. But within the first year of marriage, this contrast started causing big problems . . … Continue reading Can Laid Back Men Lead?

Book on ‘submissive wives’ becomes hit in Spain

Members of Spanish trade union CCOO tear up sheets of paper printed with the cover of the book “Get Married and be Submissive,” by Italian author Costanza Miriano last month Photo: REUTERS Book that advises new wives “to be submissive” proves surprise success in Spain but angers feminists A book advising newly-wed women on how to be “submissive” has become a publishing phenomenon in Spain while outraging feminists … Continue reading Book on ‘submissive wives’ becomes hit in Spain

Devoted to The Lord

1 Corinthians 7:34-35:
“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs:
Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit.
But a married woman is concerned about the things of this world –
how she can please her husband.
I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you,
but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord.”

Dear Christian Woman,

We have been called to undivided devotion to the Lord Jesus Christ. He has purified us from our sin and worldliness and set us apart to His holy purposes, are you walking in daily devotion to Him?

Perhaps the best way to start this discussion is by taking a few moments to consider what “undivided devotion” is. Simply put, it is a focused commitment and sacrificial giving of ourselves to someone or something. We fix our eyes on the goal and do not let them wander or waver. When the going gets tough, we are committed to giving whatever it takes to accomplish that goal. In this passage, the apostle Paul expects unmarried women to be making the Lord Jesus Christ their goal. Is He yours? Continue reading “Devoted to The Lord”

“Women, Stop Submitting to Men”

This is an excellent piece that digs down to the fundamentals. We get a lot of funny comments from readers who think we believe women are inferior, must kowtow to all men, should remain uneducated, etc., etc., ad nauseum. Here’s the plain truth, demonstrating that the shoe is (sadly) on the other foot in our modern culture. Those of us who hold to so-called “traditional … Continue reading “Women, Stop Submitting to Men”

Domestic Tyrants

I was contemplating recently why I don’t care for the term “abuser.” It’s certainly an accurate description at times. I wondered if perhaps it was the overuse of the word that bothered me; and I think that is definitely part of it. However, I think I mostly flinch at the word because we are all abusers – every time we sin against someone we are … Continue reading Domestic Tyrants

Modern Women: Submitting and Serving?

Nobody wants to be a slave. Nobody grows up aspiring to be a servant. In independent, me-centered America, all the coveted positions are on top.

Words like “slave” and “servant” have negative connotations that make us think “low-class,” “subjugation,” and, in many cases, injustice or infringement of rights. Not surprising, then, is the fact that many women look distastefully on the idea of giving their time and energy to “serving” a husband. The very phrase is no doubt turning off many of you even as you read this.

Just mention the idea that a woman should be at the door to greet her husband, with children in tow and dinner on the table, and you’ll instantly have women up in arms saying you’re stuck in the 1950s or have a primitive mind capable of no real critical thought (or as one woman attacking my blog on a message board said, “When I get home, I tell my husband to go to the fridge and get ME what I want”).

Now, I’m not saying that women have to do those specific things–I’m just saying that the response to such a suggestion reveals that the modern woman’s heart is nowhere near to that of a servant’s.
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