Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?

“I thought marriage was coming, and soon. I thought I gave up the worldly approach to womanhood in exchange for a beautiful biblical picture that included husband, children, a home to be a homemaker in. And something went wrong. I gave up the world’s picture in exchange for nothing. I have nothing to show for it. I’ve spent 8 years in a holding pattern. I … Continue reading Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?

Courtship: Should There Be Only One Suitor?

Imagine this: Marc has a female friend he’s known for years. Recently, he’s begun to realize what a good wife she would make and how much he enjoys her friendship. He talks to his parents who agree this looks like a wise course, then he calls her dad and makes an appointment to talk to him. He tells her father how much he appreciates his friend and … Continue reading Courtship: Should There Be Only One Suitor?

10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry

Valentines Day is over, the chocolate is on sale and singles still on the market are wondering if they’ll forever be on the shelf. The sense of urgency to marry peaks on days like yesterday and you have to wonder if that is not proof enough that feminism is a lie. Putting off marriage, putting off children, settling for work oriented singleness and all it’s … Continue reading 10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry

Single and Grateful

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Norman Rockwell The Prom Dress 1949 Art Print $2.99

Two weeks ago I turned 26. It’s not old enough to put myself on the shelf and bury my hopes of marriage, of course. But it’s old enough to attract all kinds of attention and speculation about my single state, and it’s definitely old enough to take an interest in the articles that come my way talking about the peculiar joys and challenges of the unmarried life.

There’s one genre of article, though, that concerns me deeply, and by “concerns me deeply” I mean “makes me stare in speechless unsympathy.” It’s not always about waiting for a husband; in fact often it’s about something far more dire. Folks I know have waited for children, for work, or for health. And then at some point, they’ve blogged about it.

“What not to say to someone who’s chronically single/ill/out of work/barren.”

“It hurts that when my church celebrates Mother’s Day, all the mothers who’ve had children get gifts and flowers and nobody spares a thought or gesture for those of us who haven’t been able to conceive.”

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By Suzannah Rowntree

“I don’t want to hear that the Lord is using this time of singleness to prepare me for marriage. Does that make my husband a good-behaviour-prize?”

“People try to say kind and encouraging things, but if they realised how hurtful and discouraging they were, they’d stop saying them and feel awful about themselves.”

Hello, I am 26 and single. And articles like this have no relation to my world. Continue reading “Single and Grateful”

To All The Christian Single Ladies Praying For Love This Year

A year has come to an end behind us and hopeful anticipation ushers in another. What will this year be filled with? Will this be my year for love, marriage, and long held hopes fulfilled? Or a repeat of last year. Doom. Banish the thought and ignore the anxiety, here I come 2014…

Sophia Lee at WNG.org has written a piece that represents what many girls the world over have thought and experienced. She’s resisted the world’s ideas about love, she’s caved to the world’s ideas about love, found false promises leave us empty, and returned to God for that which only He can give. She writes, Continue reading “To All The Christian Single Ladies Praying For Love This Year”

How Can a Single Person Hope to Live Pure?

One of the most fascinating stories in the Bible is the life of Joseph. He spent many years as a single man separated from his loving father and his older brothers who had despised and rejected him. Although the LORD was with him and gave him favor throughout his “wilderness” experience, Joseph was not exempt from having to face sexual temptation.

Temptation came at him in a fury when he was serving as overseer in Potiphar’s house. Once Potiphar’s wife set eyes on the young, handsome Israelite, she was determined to have him for herself. However, in his battle to stay pure, Joseph demonstrated heroic courage as he withstood her daily advances and asked, “How can I do this great wickedness and sin against God?” (Genesis 39:9b)

I suspect that many Christian men reading this are thinking, “How was he able to do that? I can’t imagine that kind of resolve.”

Despite the attempts of Potiphar’s wife to seduce him, Joseph feared God and had a deep resolve, a solid conviction that to yield to her was not an option. This is how he successfully fled from sexual immorality, even though his commitment to do the right thing was costly. Because of her false accusations, Joseph was thrown into prison for some time. But God was with him and made him to prosper in all that he did until he was eventually promoted to Prime Minister of Egypt.

The fact is, I believe that it takes the same kind of courage, conviction, and commitment for any single Christian today to maintain a pure life that is pleasing to God, despite whatever cost may be involved. Continue reading “How Can a Single Person Hope to Live Pure?”