“I thought marriage was coming, and soon. I thought I gave up the worldly approach to womanhood in exchange for a beautiful biblical picture that included husband, children, a home to be a homemaker in. And something went wrong. I gave up the world’s picture in exchange for nothing. I have nothing to show for it. I’ve spent 8 years in a holding pattern. I … Continue reading Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?
From the Colson Center: I recently learned that the concept of the family room originated from guidelines that the government issued in the middle of the 20th century when specifying how homes could qualify for insurance. A new model of the home emerged which deliberately detached it from labor and functionality. Government planners urged architects and home-owners to get rid of walls and doors, to … Continue reading Industrialization and Marriage
Absolutely spot-on: In her book “Lean In,” Sheryl Sandberg blames women for subconsciously self-selecting out of career tracks that lead to the corner office and the big bucks. By being fearful, unassertive, and hedging their bets in favor of flexibility for kids many of them don’t yet have, Sandberg says that women themselves are largely responsible for why men still dominate at the highest levels of corporate … Continue reading In defense of ‘leaning out’: Moms differ in defining success
[Editor’s Note: This is a post from the original (LAF) site that I meant to bring over to the new one but forgot. After a couple of reader requests, I managed to locate the original file. This is excellent material and illustrates why robust biblical womanhood negates any “need” for feminism. Women are already “empowered” thanks to God’s high calling for them and the full scope … Continue reading “The Woman’s Place”
In our day, expressions like “personal growth”, “self-fulfillment” and “following our own dreams” are tossed into the air on a regular basis. We are constantly convinced that to be happy, we must do what we want, when we want; and that our children are better off seeing a “happy” mother a couple of hours a day, than an unfulfilled, frustrated one all day long.
I will not say that this doesn’t have a grain of truth. It is important that we grow and develop our personalities; it is lovely to dream, and to pursue goals. And yet it is crucial to remember – especially for young mothers like me, who are often bogged down by diapers, food smeared everywhere, and squabbling toddlers – that for everything there is a season, and that almost everything can wait while we raise a family. Our dreams are not gone; they are just put on hold, or on a back burner, while we do that which cannot wait.
On this day when we celebrate moms, it’s amazing there are women in the world who think motherhood is denigrating and without real worth: Simone De Beauvoir famously said that being a full-time mother should be illegal because too many women would enjoy it. Badinter does not advocate criminalizing motherhood. She just wants to keep it heavily stigmatized. Motherhood, when it is trumpeted as something fulfilling and … Continue reading A French Revolutionary Scolds Mothers
From Suzanne Venker: There it was in the grocery store checkout line, in all its glory — a Time magazine headline: “The Richer Sex.” The article is a reprint from Liza Mundy’s new book of the same name. What does it mean? That women “are overtaking men as America’s breadwinners.” Ms. Mundy wants you to know why that’s a great thing. As women have gained … Continue reading Rich Women and Emasculated Men
More and more it is assumed that children will stay with grandma, relatives, be put in daycare, or go to after-school programs. For many women, there isn’t even a choice involved. This is simply what people do today.
But being in the workforce has shown me the other side of the coin. How do working mothers usually feel about it? Frazzled. Rushed. Sometimes guilty, but mostly that the work never stops and there is never enough time in the day.
And here’s a superb follow-up to Dennis Prager’s piece — this from Femina: I have always found it remarkable that sometimes people think that being a homemaker is a somehow limiting occupation. Like there isn’t enough to do. Before I go on to some specific ideas, I’d like to just say a little something about this. I am fairly certain that if you gave yourself … Continue reading How do we love thee? Let me count some ways…
Dennis Prager wrote a great piece earlier this month about the myth that homemakers are trapped in narrow, confined, and intellectually limited lives: [J]ust a few weeks ago, the [Daily Kos] declared me a misogynist for my column on what I believe to have been four negative legacies of feminism for women. I actually wrote the column on behalf of women, yet I was labeled … Continue reading Does a full-time homemaker swap her mind for a mop?