Answering The Miley Cyrus Generation

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Miley Cyrus is an icon of a soul that is a wasteland and she’s taking others down with her. The Dave Ryan Show reports that,

“Miley Cyrus’ controversial performance at the MTV Video Music Awards is now the most-tweeted moment of the year. Twitter announced on Monday that Miley and her provocative dancing with singer Robin Thicke set a record on the social networking site, garnering 306,000 tweets per minute. Four-point-five million tweets about Miley went out during the award show’s two-hour airtime.”

Her immorality and shamefulness seems to know no end perpetuating the idea that empowerment lies in unrestrained license and self destruction. You and I both know people we need to reach out to who are following her lead on the downward spiral. Just this morning I shared the gospel with a young lady who had never heard the message about godly purity, chastity and the sins of Miley Cyrus. She listened. She and seemed to be convicted. While I gave her the Word I also reached for some trusted resources, which I have listed below.

Here they are and a few more if you need to get your bearings and build a foundation. Use them to reach out to others as a doorway to spreading the gospel. We all have to play our part in affecting cultural morality.  Spread the word about modesty, femininity, and purity to a world that knows no shame and may have never heard a message otherwise.

The authors, editors, speakers and filmmakers have spent countless hours  and their own financial resources putting together these trusted tools. Buy them, use them, give them away.

Want to know what these authors, editors and filmmakers have to say about purity, chastity, sobriety, femininity, marriage and the like?

Join LAF on twitter  for a #purity campaign as we treat @mileycyrus followers, adding many wonderful quotes from some of the following books. Retweet to your friends and family who need a vision of godly maidenhood. Add your own favorite quotes that inspire you to Christ-likeness. We want to know what Christ has done for you as a contrast the faulty idea that complete license is liberating. Tweet us your testimony @lafbw. Hope to see you there.

(I probably don’t have to say this but or your soul’s sake, skip visiting Miley’s numerous twitter pages.) Continue reading “Answering The Miley Cyrus Generation”

The New Barely There Modesty

There seems to be this weird new drift in the concept of Christian modesty. Perhaps it’s just a non-theology reaction to truly poor theology; but, whatever it is, it’s growing…especially in the “relevant” crowd. In other words, the people who seem to support this new “barely there modesty” concept rarely use Scripture to defend or support their ideas. They just ramble on about legalism, uptight Christians, and a loose, self-styled “liberty” that pushes holiness into the ambiguous zone and redefines modesty into oblivion.

I recently read a disturbing article by a pastor who verbally rolled his eyes at Christian modesty. In his blog post, he was responding in protest to Jessica Rey’s video about the history of the bikini. I’m hoping his attitude doesn’t reflect a trend, but after the defensive attitudes I observed when Soul Surfer was released, I have to wonder. Continue reading “The New Barely There Modesty”

Kindle Version of Raising Maidens of Virtue Now Available!

“Our world desperately needs to see the beautiful antithesis of the gospel. Christians need to declare to the lost that femininity is a wonderful part of the image of God: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him: male and female created he them” (Genesis 1:27). As our culture drifts into greater androgyny, what an opportunity we … Continue reading Kindle Version of Raising Maidens of Virtue Now Available!

Pretty Versus Hot

Spot on: Recently I came across an article called “The Death of Pretty,” in which the author laments our culture’s movement from valuing “pretty” to valuing “hot.” He describes “pretty” this way: “Once upon a time, women wanted to project an innocence. I am not idealizing another age and I have no illusions about the virtues of our grandparents, concupiscence being what it is. But some things were … Continue reading Pretty Versus Hot

What Christian Modesty Looks Like

Modest clothing is beautiful. While we each have slightly different perspectives on what is ugly, as Christian women we should try and dress in a way that is beautiful. Not elaborate or decadent or seductive, as I said, but beautiful. Carolyn Mahaney says, “[B]ecause we are created in the image of our Creator, each of us has this propensity to make things beautiful. That means, … Continue reading What Christian Modesty Looks Like

Announcing a New Webinar: Reclaiming Beauty

Reclaiming Beauty Webinar: A New Look at How to Glorify God in Your Body

A New Look at How to Glorify God in Your Body

What is beauty?

Some say beauty fits in a size 0. Some say beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Some say beauty is only skin deep. Some say beauty is only a quality of the heart. Some say beauty is truth. Some say beauty is a lie. Some say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some say beauty is as beauty does. Some say Elizabeth Taylor and Grace Kelly are beautiful. Some say everyone is beautiful. Some say beauty is divine. Some say beauty is corrupting.

From all this confusion, one idea emerges clearly: The world knows beauty matters. They talk a lot about it, write poetry and paint paintings celebrating it, and spend $160 billion dollars a year on it. But what’s equally clear is that they don’t know what it is. The question is: Do we?

Continue reading “Announcing a New Webinar: Reclaiming Beauty”

Help! Can’t You Just Tell Me What to Wear?

Hi Stacy,

I appreciated this article, but I’m still feeling confused about the whole subject. Everyone seems to have a major difference of opinion on what is modest (Soul Surfer is a good example), so how do we as a family choose a standard and stick to it?

Do you think strapless is ok if there’s no cleavage? What about skirt length? Do your girls ever wear shorts?

My daughters are getting older and frankly the thought of having to evaluate each outfit, every time they leave the house, exhausts me. Continue reading “Help! Can’t You Just Tell Me What to Wear?”

Can We Have a Braver Princess, Please?

Twenty years ago, our mother walked down the Walmart Pink Isle, past all the Disney-heroine Barbies, Disney-movie-inspired vanity playsets, sequined polyester fish-tail skirts with seashells, and itchy yellow off-shoulder Belle dresses, and decided, “Not for my daughters.”

We were 4 and 6, and like most little girls, were each on our quest for the holy grail of femininity, the all-inspiring vision of who to be when we grew up.  Like many mothers, Mom realized that the entire panoply of Disney “woman” options, from Snow White to Ariel and Belle, were not it.  Unlike many mothers, she ditched the entire franchise, tossed Barbie, and made us beautiful cloth dolls based on our intrepid Swedish-immigrant great-grandmothers, and taught us how to make clothes for them ourselves.
Continue reading “Can We Have a Braver Princess, Please?”

Too Feminine?

In his parenting manual, Emile, the French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau argued that men and women are made differently and therefore require different types of upbringing. He espoused what today many people call a “complementarian” view of gender, which refers to the idea that the differences between men and women complement and enhance each other.
Rousseau’s representation of gender falls along the typical polarities, with man being active and woman being passive; man being strong, woman being weak; man being bold, woman being bashful and reserved, etc. While some of Rousseau’s distinctions are exaggerated and stereotypical, we must give him credit for understanding an important point: men and women are different. As he put it, “where sex is concerned man and woman are unlike; each is the complement of the other…”
Many female thinkers in the 18th and 19th century accepted this complementarian framework, even while offering appropriate challenges to our picture of what constituted “feminine” attributes. Female writers see themselves defending their sex precisely through maintaining gender distinctions. For example, the Victorian writer Elizabeth Wordsworth once noted that “In an ideal state of society, we never lose sight of the womanliness of women…why should it be considered a compliment to any woman to be told she writes, paints, sings, talks, or even thinks, like a man?” Continue reading “Too Feminine?”

Flesh Parades, Doug Wilson and Cinematic Nudity

Douglas Wilson has some good things to say here about some of the issues upstream of the modesty debate, which echoes the concerns I raised in my article ‘Slutwalk and the Negation of Feminine Sexuality.

Wilson also helpfully reminds us that when a woman reveals too much flesh, it is often not because she has too much sexual security but too little. Wilson writes,

One of the most striking things about these flesh parades is how unattractive it all is. As in, gekkk. … There are clearly numerous young ladies who have no one in their lives willing to speak to them truthfully. And when women don’t have someone who loves them like they ought to, they become susceptible to any number of fads, so long as someone — most likely a peer with the same emotional problems — is willing to tell them it is “cute.” Well, it isn’t. Sorry to break it to you. There also appears to be an inverse relationship between the class of the person and how many square feet are covered by the tattoo.

The problem here, at least within the church, is that hints don’t get you anywhere, no effect at all, and if you state the problem plainly, it flattens the poor girl for months, like somebody took a pastoral mallet to her. By “hints,” I mean general references in sermons to modesty and decorum, and by “stating plainly” I mean suggesting that she come to church next week with the mammalian pride dialed back just a skosh. The problem is not that she is secure in her sexuality — it is just the reverse. You can tell this because women who want to be “secure” in their sexuality in this way at the same time do not want men around them who are secure in their sexuality in a comparable way.

Click “more” to read the rest (not for young readers). Continue reading “Flesh Parades, Doug Wilson and Cinematic Nudity”