Some of the most faithful Christians I know today are unmarried. They are using their gifts to show a different side of what faithfulness might look like when one doesn’t have children, a spouse, a mortgage, or some other constraints. They are making a case for late marriages not simply because of the kind of marriage they might have by delaying it (hopefully more mature, grounded, … Continue reading A Case for Marrying Later
“I thought marriage was coming, and soon. I thought I gave up the worldly approach to womanhood in exchange for a beautiful biblical picture that included husband, children, a home to be a homemaker in. And something went wrong. I gave up the world’s picture in exchange for nothing. I have nothing to show for it. I’ve spent 8 years in a holding pattern. I … Continue reading Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?
[Editor’s note: The author mentions men getting caught up in loving limitless choices, becoming experience junkies. This applies equally to women. Feminism pressures women to be non-committal, to wait, to go out in the world and experience life first before settling down for marriage. Our culture’s over abundance of lifestyle marketing makes endless adventures very alluring.] Taking too long to choose a song is annoying … Continue reading TGC: Boundaries, Commitment, & Choices
During our years speaking at various Christian conferences, my husband has received numerous requests from parents for his “famous” courtship questions. However, he has been hesitant to make them available, since it is easy for people to want a formula for courtship. His concern was that families may misunderstand the purpose for the questions and miss out on potentially wonderful matches for their daughters. My … Continue reading McDonald: Courtship Questions for Potential Suitors
Hello, I’m a single mother to a 16-month old who reads your blog. And yes, I’m a changed liberal 🙂 By reading your blog, it’s helped me to be celibate from what I was before, keep from giving up on being a mom (being a single mom is hard as heck), and most of all, I love the virtues and family values that you have … Continue reading Hope and Vision for Single Mothers
What is the difference between a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship involving two Christians and courting? This is a question I get asked a lot! I think one of the key differences can be summed up by a single word: ‘BELONGING’. Let me explain! Read the rest here! Continue reading Ruby in the Rough: Courtship vs. Boyfriends
“Empowered” is a power word for women (and for men frankly, but we’ll focus on women right now), so much so I hate to even try to redeem it. It is the feminist ideal which tempts women toward a man-centered confidence rather than living in Christ. It’s a seemingly invigorating idea that ends with God establishing the glory due Him by laying the sinner low, and yet we chase … Continue reading Capturing Weak Women and Weak Men
If there’s one thing I absolutely don’t want to do on Valentine’s Day, it’s to go to a restaurant by myself. Not that I begrudge the happy couples around me their status, chocolates, or flowers. As someone who is single, I’m not prone to notice whether most of the people in a place are paired up, single, or in a group. But on Valentine’s Day, … Continue reading AiG: Table for One, Please…
Let us begin with what I believe to be a common sense observation, which is that when everything is rape then nothing is. We live in a time when the truth of much of this is playing out in real time. Let us begin with one side of the equation, which would be the current climate on college campuses created by various certified buttercups, which … Continue reading Wilson: Courtship and Rape Culture
The lie says: If you find romantic love, then your life will be safe and fulfilling. So much so that marriage becomes a type of salvation, and romantic love takes on almost redemptive expectations. So what would you say to Christians, either singles or newlyweds, who are in danger of losing awe in God by becoming preoccupied with romantic love? The first thing I … Continue reading Desiring God: Romantic Love is a Wonderful gift and a Terrible God
