Fast Track To Femininity: Why Competing With Men Has Left Women Out Of Touch With Their Feminine Side

Editor’s Note: There are plenty of great take-away points here, in spite of the discussion on dating and botox. Enjoy and watch out for the unfriendly sidebar ads.  Recently, the media has been awash with articles suggesting that career women are to relationships what garlic is to a vampire – the kiss of death. We’re unable to sustain meaningful unions, apparently, because men are intimidated … Continue reading Fast Track To Femininity: Why Competing With Men Has Left Women Out Of Touch With Their Feminine Side

Dear daughter, please believe me that you’re beautiful

Dear Daughter, I hope you never notice the magazine rack at the supermarket. I hope you never see the billboards on the highway or the ads on the side of the city bus. I hope you never learn about Hollywood and the fashion industry. I hope you never listen to pop music. I hope you never walk down the makeup aisle. I hope you never … Continue reading Dear daughter, please believe me that you’re beautiful

Equally Valuable, Purposely Different

By Bethany from GirlDefined The world says that Girls can’t. We know that girls can. We’ve proved to the world that girls can rock, girls can be strong, girls can rap, girls can be funny, girls can play the lead and girls can run the show. You just have to be courageous and challenge the notion of what it means to be a girl. We’ve … Continue reading Equally Valuable, Purposely Different

Be Rude

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Portrait of Marie Antoinette in hunting attire (a favorite of her mother), by Joseph Krantzinger (1771), Kunsthistorisches Museum, Vienna.

As a young teen, Marie Antoinette came from the cozy family atmosphere of the court of her mother the Empress of Austria to marry the heir to the French throne. Morals were lax at the French court and Marie Antoinette’s higher standards made her plenty of enemies, especially when she snubbed Madame Du Barry, her father-in-law’s mistress. Soon Marie Antoinette became queen, but the gossips hinted that her husband was—in these early years, at least—not interested in her. One rake, the Duc de Biron, thought she might be pining for some male attention and tried to get her alone. Witnesses reported that they heard the queen crying, “Sortez, Monsieur! Get out!” and saw the Duc come running out with a red face.

I like Marie Antoinette, and this story is a great illustration to some of the best advice a young woman will ever hear. I first saw it demonstrated by my mother, then put into words by Nancy Wilson, and more recently re-iterated by Martin Selbrede. It really is critical:

Be rude. Continue reading “Be Rude”

Don’t Be A Bathsheba

  From Single, Young, Christian, Mom Don’t be the Bathsheba meaning don’t be a sexual temptation or a bad example of beauty for others. I’ve been thinking and praying a lot lately about how we as women deal with beauty.  Beauty is a battle in and of itself. Every woman longs deeply to have a beauty all her own and for it to be seen, admired, … Continue reading Don’t Be A Bathsheba

The Democratization of Beauty

“Mention plastic surgery and the more judgmental among us immediately rattle off a list of traits its devotees probably share: vanity, frivolousness, narcissism, low self-esteem. We imagine shallow socialites or vain movie stars desperately trying to forestall the ravages of time. But in fact, cosmetic surgery is not an industry built on vanity alone, but also on two much more powerful emotions: denial and envy. Cosmetic surgery thrives on our collective denial of aging and on our refusal to accept physiological limits. It feeds our envy of those who embody nature’s most powerful but fleeting charms — youth, strength, beauty, and fertility. Its supporters praise its ability to change lives and its critics denounce it as the expression of our society’s worst impulses. It is a useful fathometer for assessing the state of our democracy and a Rorschach test for people’s views about much broader social currents: the glorification of youth, the tenor of popular culture, the peculiar but strenuous American anxiety about identity. It is also a wildly successful industry — one based on ingenuity and an array of constantly evolving techniques and products, overseen by an army of trained professionals eager to protect and enhance their market prestige. Continue reading “The Democratization of Beauty”

Feminist Pioneers Out To Destroy Your Daughters

Columnist Ross Douthat has stirred up a hornet’s nest by commenting on a new study suggesting that being the parent of a girl may nudge people toward the Republican party. Douthat speculated that watching daughters cope with a “social landscape in which sex has been decoupled from marriage,” and in which young men cruise through the sexual marketplace leaving broken hearts in their wake, may … Continue reading Feminist Pioneers Out To Destroy Your Daughters

Quirks of the Fairer Sex Which Ought Not be So

My Dear Sisters, My friend, Bria, has very kindly given me the opportunity to write several things to my sisters in Christ. I’m going to take this opportunity to affirm some things she’s written, as well as submit several more points for your consideration. It is my prayer that you will hear me speak as a brother, who cares about your well-being in Christ, not … Continue reading Quirks of the Fairer Sex Which Ought Not be So

Michelle Duggar on Teaching Her Daughters About Modest Dress

When the girls are little, they’re jumping and playing and not even thinking about modesty. It’s good because that’s the way children should be. As a parent I would have to remind them, let’s not stand upside down on your head in that chair because you want to practice being ladylike. And they look at me with this puzzled looked like, what does that mean? … Continue reading Michelle Duggar on Teaching Her Daughters About Modest Dress

Living out Biblical Principles: A Young Woman’s Prayer of Chastity

From Stacy McDonald at Your Sacred Calling, I have made a covenant with my body to be discreet and chaste; why then should I flaunt myself before men? Does God not see my ways and count all my steps (Job 31:1,4)? Has He not said that marriage is honorable among all (Hebrews 13:4) and that the woman who allures men even with her eyes is … Continue reading Living out Biblical Principles: A Young Woman’s Prayer of Chastity