Lilies of the Field Online Clothing Store and Give-Away!

Grand Opening! Lilies of the Field is a new online clothing store celebrating their grand opening with a giveaway you won’t want to miss! Busy women of all ages will appreciate this lifestyle inspired store, especially those who need to be reminded to put themselves at the top of their “To Do List.” Lilies of the Field knows that by putting you first, you’ll be … Continue reading Lilies of the Field Online Clothing Store and Give-Away!

Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?

“I thought marriage was coming, and soon. I thought I gave up the worldly approach to womanhood in exchange for a beautiful biblical picture that included husband, children, a home to be a homemaker in. And something went wrong. I gave up the world’s picture in exchange for nothing. I have nothing to show for it. I’ve spent 8 years in a holding pattern. I … Continue reading Botkin Sisters: Should I Keep Preparing for Marriage?

Mercatornet: Feminine beauty that endures the ages

In London, the National Portrait Gallery has opened a major exhibition made up of images of Audrey Hepburn, called “Portraits of an Icon”. And as noted by this article in The Conversation, it portrays a world of difference from the celebrity status that currently exists. What is it about women like Audrey Hepburn and Grace Kelly that makes them truly iconic? What is it about … Continue reading Mercatornet: Feminine beauty that endures the ages

Fashion Design – Intelligent Design

As she walks in the room, you pause your discussion, every attribute of her unique character diverting your attention. There is no particular point of emphasis in the picture she presents, though she is a purposeful arrangement of colors, contours, and textures. None of it is self-referential, but rather an introduction which piques your interest in what seems to be a vast and thriving world, of which she is an important and integral part. Her clothing speaks of intelligence; a maturity that exceeds her youth. Continue reading “Fashion Design – Intelligent Design”

The Boundaries of a Wise Heart

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“You have to demand respect!”

These words, uttered passionately into my cellphone earlier this week, have driven me from blog-hiding to write about a topic that is near and dear to my heart these days (quite largely because of that passionate conversation): boundaries and respect in male/female relationships.

Respect may seem an odd topic for me to cover on a web journal originally called Ladies Against Feminism, because it is usually assumed that women who do not embrace feminism to not demand respect from the men in their lives. And, while it’s true that my advice to my friend (who I shall call “Annie,” because that’s the name of one of my favorite songs, and Annie is one of my favorite people) was not to call up the young man who had wronged her and read him his rights… I do believe that women who embrace femininity can demand respect without emasculating the men in their lives; in fact, on the contrary, I believe that the way the we can command respect will affirm their masculinity.

Rejecting the fruits of the sexual revolution makes me an old-fashioned girl… but old-fashioned doesn’t equal doormat. Continue reading “The Boundaries of a Wise Heart”

Being a Gentleman ‘Sexist’, say Feminists

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No Longer Politically Correct to be a Gentleman

Chivalry is demeaning towards women and a sign of ‘sexism’ in men, feminist psychologists now claim.

The controversial claims follow a report for the Psychology of Women Quarterly which asserts that there is a cluster of behaviours called ‘benevolent sexism’ which manifests itself in everything from opening doors for girls to men offering to help women choose the right computer. (See Andy Bloxham’s Telegraph article, Chivalry is actually ‘benevolent sexism’, feminists conclude.”)

Playing the part of a gentleman is a particularly insidious form of ‘benevolent sexism’, rooted in warm feelings towards women, the researchers claim. While gentlemanly behaviour might at first appear to be positive towards women, it is actually a form of gender colonialism.

“The warm, fuzzy feelings surrounding benevolent sexism come at a cost,” warned Melanie Tannenbaum in the Scientific American last April, “and that cost is often actual, objective gender equality.” Continue reading “Being a Gentleman ‘Sexist’, say Feminists”

Pretty Versus Hot

Spot on: Recently I came across an article called “The Death of Pretty,” in which the author laments our culture’s movement from valuing “pretty” to valuing “hot.” He describes “pretty” this way: “Once upon a time, women wanted to project an innocence. I am not idealizing another age and I have no illusions about the virtues of our grandparents, concupiscence being what it is. But some things were … Continue reading Pretty Versus Hot

Announcing a New Webinar: Reclaiming Beauty

Reclaiming Beauty Webinar: A New Look at How to Glorify God in Your Body

A New Look at How to Glorify God in Your Body

What is beauty?

Some say beauty fits in a size 0. Some say beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Some say beauty is only skin deep. Some say beauty is only a quality of the heart. Some say beauty is truth. Some say beauty is a lie. Some say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some say beauty is as beauty does. Some say Elizabeth Taylor and Grace Kelly are beautiful. Some say everyone is beautiful. Some say beauty is divine. Some say beauty is corrupting.

From all this confusion, one idea emerges clearly: The world knows beauty matters. They talk a lot about it, write poetry and paint paintings celebrating it, and spend $160 billion dollars a year on it. But what’s equally clear is that they don’t know what it is. The question is: Do we?

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“The Woman’s Place”

[Editor’s Note: This is a post from the original LAF site that I meant to bring over to the new one but forgot. After a couple of reader requests, I managed to locate the original file. This is excellent material and illustrates why robust biblical womanhood negates any “need” for feminism. Women are already “empowered” thanks to God’s high calling for them and the full scope for their abilities and gifts given to them within that multi-faceted role. Human rights are for both men and women and come because we are “endowed by our Creator,” alike made in His image and worthy of dignity and respect. There is no need to play women against men to guarantee basic human rights. In fact, pitting women against men causes far more damage to individuals, families, and communities. We talk a lot on LAF about the “family economy” and how it eliminates the whole mythical “work-family balance” that causes eruptions in the blogosphere every time it is raised. Family is work, and what takes place within the family unit is far more than washing dishes and making beds. Those are normal routines of any daily life. The heart of the family is really and truly economic in every sense of the word. When the whole family is involved in work (whether it’s a home-based business, a ministry, home education, hospitality and charity, community service, etc.), its members grow together in amazing ways and become more involved in one another’s lives, thoughts, and dreams than if each member of the family goes in a different direction each morning to different locations with differing priorities and goals. Today, this is a radical way to approach life, but our ancestors prior to the Industrial Revolution lived it, breathed it, and built nations upon it. We can, too. What could be more empowering, freeing, or exciting? Enjoy the article!] Continue reading ““The Woman’s Place””

Can We Have a Braver Princess, Please?

Twenty years ago, our mother walked down the Walmart Pink Isle, past all the Disney-heroine Barbies, Disney-movie-inspired vanity playsets, sequined polyester fish-tail skirts with seashells, and itchy yellow off-shoulder Belle dresses, and decided, “Not for my daughters.”

We were 4 and 6, and like most little girls, were each on our quest for the holy grail of femininity, the all-inspiring vision of who to be when we grew up.  Like many mothers, Mom realized that the entire panoply of Disney “woman” options, from Snow White to Ariel and Belle, were not it.  Unlike many mothers, she ditched the entire franchise, tossed Barbie, and made us beautiful cloth dolls based on our intrepid Swedish-immigrant great-grandmothers, and taught us how to make clothes for them ourselves.
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