Long before I was even considering marriage, a Titus 2 woman shared with me the pain of confessing her sexual history to her future husband. “It was hard,” she told me. “We both cried. We both repented. It made us a stronger couple.” I remember being grateful for her openness with me, but also feeling that her story didn’t really apply to me. My romantic … Continue reading Holmes: How to Handle Your Spouse’s Sexual Past
Tonight, my Beloved showed me a video she found online called the Evolution of Beauty(see video below). It begins with a plain-looking young lady with no makeup sitting down at a mirror. Then time speeds up as make-up artists and hair-stylists work their “magic” for what seems like hours: painting her face, highlighting her eyes, concealing her freckles, hiding blemishes, teasing her hair and making her … Continue reading Flirting with Sexual Sin
Editor’s Note: Mature content
This edition of When His Secret Sin Breaks Your Heart is newly revised from the 2003 edition. I have grown in my convictions about how to survive the devastation of an unfaithful spouse and have continued to hold to the Ancient Truths as the pathway God desires for us. As difficult as this subject is, God is still, and will always be, not just the One with the answers but is Himself the answer that we long for.
I have chosen to use a unique format for this book –answering letters from various hurting wives I have encountered. Over the span of the 25 years that I have been dealing with the wives of sexual addicts, I have yet to run into two women whose circumstances were exactly the same. With that in mind, I have attempted to handle a variety of issues that women experience, although I know I haven’t touched on them all.
While this book does not provide formula about changing your husband, it does address practical situations you probably deal with on a regular basis. This is definitely not a one-sized-fits-all kind of book so you may find yourself looking for those pieces that apply to your situation. The main think I want to emphasize throughout the book is how IMPORTANT it is that you see Jesus in your situation. Having practical answers is secondary to this. Continue reading “When His Sin Breaks Your Heart”
Sexual sin hurts. It mangles and poisons. It attacks the potential beauty and closeness of one of God’s most mysterious gifts: The one flesh relationship of sexual intimacy. In addition to defrauding our neighbor, when we engage in fornication or adultery we are in a real way self-destructing (Rom. 1:24-27).
While most Christians understand the health risks of extra-marital sex, and many will even acknowledge the emotional and spiritual damage such relationships have on people, it is likely that few understand how much deeper the damage goes. Studies now show that physical damage to the brain may be an additional consequence of sexual sin.
(Not for young readers.)