As she walks in the room, you pause your discussion, every attribute of her unique character diverting your attention. There is no particular point of emphasis in the picture she presents, though she is a purposeful arrangement of colors, contours, and textures. None of it is self-referential, but rather an introduction which piques your interest in what seems to be a vast and thriving world, of which she is an important and integral part. Her clothing speaks of intelligence; a maturity that exceeds her youth. Continue reading “Fashion Design – Intelligent Design”
A New Look at How to Glorify God in Your Body
What is beauty?
Some say beauty fits in a size 0. Some say beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. Some say beauty is only skin deep. Some say beauty is only a quality of the heart. Some say beauty is truth. Some say beauty is a lie. Some say beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Some say beauty is as beauty does. Some say Elizabeth Taylor and Grace Kelly are beautiful. Some say everyone is beautiful. Some say beauty is divine. Some say beauty is corrupting.
From all this confusion, one idea emerges clearly: The world knows beauty matters. They talk a lot about it, write poetry and paint paintings celebrating it, and spend $160 billion dollars a year on it. But what’s equally clear is that they don’t know what it is. The question is: Do we?
Douglas Wilson has some good things to say here about some of the issues upstream of the modesty debate, which echoes the concerns I raised in my article ‘Slutwalk and the Negation of Feminine Sexuality.‘
Wilson also helpfully reminds us that when a woman reveals too much flesh, it is often not because she has too much sexual security but too little. Wilson writes,
One of the most striking things about these flesh parades is how unattractive it all is. As in, gekkk. … There are clearly numerous young ladies who have no one in their lives willing to speak to them truthfully. And when women don’t have someone who loves them like they ought to, they become susceptible to any number of fads, so long as someone — most likely a peer with the same emotional problems — is willing to tell them it is “cute.” Well, it isn’t. Sorry to break it to you. There also appears to be an inverse relationship between the class of the person and how many square feet are covered by the tattoo.
The problem here, at least within the church, is that hints don’t get you anywhere, no effect at all, and if you state the problem plainly, it flattens the poor girl for months, like somebody took a pastoral mallet to her. By “hints,” I mean general references in sermons to modesty and decorum, and by “stating plainly” I mean suggesting that she come to church next week with the mammalian pride dialed back just a skosh. The problem is not that she is secure in her sexuality — it is just the reverse. You can tell this because women who want to be “secure” in their sexuality in this way at the same time do not want men around them who are secure in their sexuality in a comparable way.
Click “more” to read the rest (not for young readers). Continue reading “Flesh Parades, Doug Wilson and Cinematic Nudity”
This piece from the National Catholic Register has to be one of the best articles I’ve ever read on reasons for modesty, highlighting one I don’t think many of us consider…but one that is nevertheless very important: our relationships with other women. Though each woman may have different ideas about exactly what it means to be modest, there is a general agreement that putting forth … Continue reading Modesty Helps Women Be Friends
From Mariette Ulrich at Mercatornet: When it comes to fashion advice, it seems the young are leading the way. The study of more than 300 mothers and daughters found that adolescent girls have a powerful influence on the make-up, clothes and hairstyles chosen by their mothers…. The desire to look one’s best isn’t new or strange; it’s a normal human aspiration. The alarming part is … Continue reading Should 40-something moms dress like their daughters?
The Wall Street Journal published a thought-provoking article this weekend, wondering out loud as to why today’s mothers-of-teenagers allow their daughters to dress and act like the Paris Hiltons of the world. With surprising honesty and clarity, the author admits that feminism might be to blame: “We are the first moms in history to have grown up with widely available birth control, the first who … Continue reading Why Do We Let Girls Dress Like That?
After my tubal ligation, and experiencing profound sadness for having a procedure that took my fertility away, I began studying the history behind the birth control movement. I found that the seeds of birth control were rooted in the soil of feminism. I also found that birth control was a stepping stone to abortion. Birth control had to come before abortion. Because we had to first warm up to the idea of contraception before such a radical idea as killing our own children could ever be made legal. We had to feel that it was OK to control whether or not a life would be allowed to grow inside one’s body before we could come to the decision that it was OK to stop a baby from growing by having an abortion procedure. Now back to the origin in all of this in feminism. Before birth control there had to be feminism or the idea of wanting to be in control, being free to do what we want. (True freedom comes from obedience to God. We can never have true freedom apart from Christ no matter how hard we try). The more I read and studied, the more I started to realize the magnitude of the damage that has come from the feminists philosophy. I knew that I wanted to have no part of it. Continue reading “Combating Feminism”
Here’s an article with some excellent reminders on why modesty is so important: Ladies and gentlemen, I exhort you to dress in such a way that does not capture anyone’s gaze, but actually gives others something else, besides your attire, to think about. Discretion is a godly trait. At times, it is better to exercise self-control, by setting aside our personal preferences for the glory of God. … Continue reading “Too much skin,girl. Too much skin”
What does it mean to dress modestly? As a teenager, I was made aware of a desire in some Christian circles to return to the modest dress. Modesty means different things to different people. There are those who feel certain colors are okay to wear but others are considered too flashy. Some only wears skirts and jumpers at all times, while other ladies feel they can wear shorts, jeans, and swimming suits. In the midst of all this can come a judgment in the hearts of women looking at each other. “Can you believe so and so showed up in jeans today?” “How legalistic to think you shouldn’t wear shorts on a hot day like today!”
I have seen this backbiting and hardness of hearts, and it’s not pretty. My own heart needs to be submitted to the love of Christ in this matter, as it says in Galations 5: “For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another…” Our prayer for each other should be that God would give each of us a modest heart. If we have a heart that desires modesty this will be reflected in the outward appearance of our clothing and in the spirit that we carry with us. Someone won’t have to stand over us with a list of do’s and don’ts. Continue reading “Modesty-A Journey of the Heart Part 2”
If you haven’t read Part 1 of The Beauty of Chastity begin HERE
What is biblical beauty?
Biblical beauty and how it pertains to chastity is often misunderstood. We seem to see one extreme attitude or the other. While one side appears to obsess over outward beauty, vainly (and often carelessly) taking pride in this withering flesh (1 Pet. 1:24), the other side sometimes rejects beauty altogether, attempting to avoid sin through fleshly means (and sometimes taking pride in the attempt).